SELF AND SOUL
Focus on the evidence of your own experience, rather than looking through someone else’s lens.
No matter how successful we become, worrying about what other people think of us can be a lifelong habit. Whether you’re yearning for professional recognition from your peers or wondering if your parents are really proud of you, it takes a thick skin to totally shake off the allure of another person’s approval.
But focusing too much on the opinions of others – real or imagined – can lead to feelings of insecurity, paranoia and a lack of satisfaction with your life. As the Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said: “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”
When others suggest that you aren’t good enough, don’t just accept their opinion as the truth. Whatever the reasons for their criticism, try to balance those against the real evidence of your success. For example, so what if your parents think you chose the wrong career? Look at what you’ve achieved and built – your financial stability, your recent promotion or your flourishing business would suggest you made the right decision.
If you really want input on a certain subject, seek feedback from the people you trust or who may be impacted by your decisions. Then you can ignore the irrelevant critics.
Did you know… Before landing her iconic show, I Love Lucy, Lucille Ball was advised to give up acting.